Ok, so maybe this isn’t new for you, or maybe it is, but it’s something we need to get to heart of right now.
This is one of the most important things you’ll need to practice in your business and in your life.
But What Does It Mean?
When you think about your own life, your own business, and your relationships, do you also think about who you spend the most time with?
If you don’t, you might be missing some really big opportunities.
Do the people you hang out with on a regular basis work a 9-5?
Do they complain about their boss or coworkers a lot?
Do they live in a scarcity mindset?
Do they talk like shit is always going wrong for them?
If you answered yes to any of those, you’re getting their vibration on you and sister, that ain’t good!
If it’s true that we are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with, what do those relationships mean now? Are they serving you and your higher-selfs mission?
How Do I Move Through?
When you come to realize that they relationships and situations you’ve been holding on to are ones that are really focused on the negative, it can feel a bit overwhelming.
Trust me, I get it.
So what do you do to move through it?
Well, getting honest is step one. You have to look at the people around and be honest about where they are and where you are.
A common misconception is that that you have ‘announce’ to your friends and family that you are no longer going to be spending time with them and that’s total nonsense. There is never a good reason to be a jerk and say "I can't hang with you as often cause you're too negative nancy for me"...
People will do one of two things when you start to level up your life.
They will simply show themselves the door organically. You will likely hear less from them and you will feel less obligated to reach out.
They will want what you’re having…as in, they will see the incredible changes you’re making and get curious about how you’re making it happen.
In school, we make friends kind of by chance. We create little friend groups that make no real sense on the surface, but we call them ALL our BFF’s. So let’s say one of those kids sadly comes from a home that has caused this little friend to behave in ways that gets him or her into trouble all the time. This friend is in the Principal's office multiple times a week. He’s even getting in trouble with the law.
Someone will eventually come to you and say, “if you keep hanging around with this kid, you will be guilty by association, even if you’ve done nothing wrong”.
If you look at your success in this same way, you can start to see a pattern in who you are choosing to spend the most time with. Are they in the "Principal's office" all the time?
It’s nothing against the person who is playing it small, but that energy, that language, that vibe will inevitably rub off on you and that is something serious.
So, starting now, I would love to invite you to look at the people you spend the most time with.
Are they people who help you grow or are they people who hold you back because they are in fear?
Do they hold you accountable to your dreams and goals?
Do they want a bigger and more impactful life for themselves?
Do they complain chronically?
Do they have the life you want?
Start seeing where you could spend more of your time with people you look up to and want to learn from.
Ask them out for lunch or dinner or a coffee…do what you need to do to get in front of them and see if you could spend more time learning from them.
Look for people in your community that want to grow and SPEND MORE TIME WITH THEM!
Can’t wait to see what comes your way once you start practicing more proximity is power!
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